Other people can hurt us, other people can harm us, and other people can scare us. But the only person that can ruin your life is you. Nobody can ruin your life without your permission. You have a choice and that is you can choose how you're going to respond to those who hurt you. The Bible says that the starting point is to just be honest and accept responsibility for your part in the problem. Proverbs 28:13 reads, "A man who refuses to admit his mistake can never be successful. But if he confess and forsake them he gets another chance."